I love to wear certain designers: Burberry, Tahari, Michael Kors, Hermes – and I aspire to wear others: Chanel, Oscar de la Renta, Marchesa.
What does this say? Am I trying to impress people with designer duds? Is it a show of wealth (ha!) or status? Am I trying to make other people feel inferior?
D) None of the above.
I wear designer fashion because of the way in which it makes me feel. There’s something empowering about carrying a Burberry handbag, or stepping out in Chanel shoes. They give me a boost of confidence and a sense of invincibility that I can’t quite explain.
If I have an important client meeting, my Hermes scarves help me feel confident. If I am attending a glamorous social event, my Chanel lapel pin is the finishing touch.
Designer labels are about me and my relationship with my fashion. I know that sounds weird, but it’s true. I really don’t care if anyone knows, or even notices, the designers I’m wearing.
They’re for me. And I’m worth it.*
(*with apologies to L’Oreal).
One of my favourite shows is “Say Yes to the Dress,” a guilty pleasure, I know. I love when women find their fashion sense and happily say yes to a dress that truly makes them feel beautiful.
This led me to wonder why ALL of our outfits don’t give us the same feeling. Now, we obviously can’t wear flouncy white ballgowns every day, but surely our clothes should make us feel special, pretty, confident…every day.
As I pondered this, I considered the process a bride goes through to choosing her dress. Perhaps we should give the same time and attention to every item in our wardrobes that brides give to selecting their wedding dresses. Here’s what brides do that most women don’t when shopping for everyday clothes:
- Try on several styles to see which one flatters our shapes
- Try on a style we wouldn’t normally choose
- Try on dresses without worrying about the size; instead, focusing on the fit
- Take a professional saleperson’s advice, and let the salesperson select options for us
- When trying on the dress, wear the undergarments and shoes we will wear on event day
- Accessorize to complete the look to see if it’s the right dress
- Get opinions from our friends
- Get the dress altered to fit
Perhaps if we did these things when shopping we would have bride-like experiences every day.
Just a thought.
One of the trends making a comeback this fall is rocker chic or punk. Can the mature woman wear this?
Let’s take a look at the trend as interpreted by Hudson’s Bay
Clearly, this collection is for younger women. But what can the mature woman take from this?
- Plaid – wear it as an accessory, blouse or shoes.
- Leather – wear one of the new moto jackets with denim or black skinny pants. Most mature women cannot pull off leather skirts or trousers anymore.
- Metal – look for studs on shoes, handbags or jewellry. Choose one item with this trim.
What should the mature woman avoid in this look?
- Graphic tees
- High top sneakers
- Safety pins or safety pin jewellry.
- Gothic jewellry
- Mini skirts and dresses
While younger girls can pull several pieces together for a look, the mature women is advised to incorporate one element into her look. Find pieces that fit your lifestyle and comfort level. No matter how you participate in the seasonal trends, your look should still be you.
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It’s finally here! I am now offering image consulting services and workshops to women in the Edmonton, Canada area.
I have created a special workbook for you that outlines key concepts and provides space for you to capture your unique profile. In October, I will be offering Saturday workshops to groups of four or less – for personalized service – to help you identify, and make the most of, your style.
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Mature women, take care before attempting nail art and dramatic makeup!
That’s my message to women over the age of 45, especially those in power positions corporately or in the community.
As much as I admire the cool designs that nail art has created, it just looks inappropriate on businesswomen, community leaders and frankly, anyone over 45. This is a time when we need to look chic and sophisticated. Nail art designs, whether it’s drawings, patterns or ‘bejeweled,’ really belongs to women in the 20s and 30s. Keep the designs for the weekend if you need to, and stick to nudes, pinks, reds and corals for daytime.
Similarly, dramatic make up, particularly heavy eyeliner or cats-eye designs, are not becoming to mature skin. Every season, cosmetics companies come out with bold colours. Unfortunately, green and blue only emphasize wrinkles and lines! Your better option is to stick to a neutral palette that compliments your skin and hair colour. After all, make up should enhance natural beauty – it’s not paint by numbers.
I know it’s hard to see these trends in the magazines and not try them out. But before you do, consider the impression you are making not only on those people you know, but equally on new acquaintances.
You only get one chance at a first impression.
Are you a spring or a winter? Cool or warm undertones? Say what now?
You’ve probably heard of colour seasons: spring, summer, autumn and winter and wondered about your own colouring. It’s not a complicated system and it needn’t be overwhelming to follow the guidelines. Here are the basics:
First, do you have a cool or warm undertone to your skin? The easiest way to find out is to look at the veins on your wrist. If they appear blue or purple, you have a cool undertone. If they appear green or yellowish, you have a warm undertone.
Four seasons, two undertone groupings
Winter and summer seasons have cool undertones.
Winter wears the bold, jewel toned colours, with white and black as neutrals. Winters often have dark hair and lighter skin creating a high contrast.
Summer looks wonderful in icy pastels, and can wear white but not black. Summers are typically silvery blonds or light ash brunettes with clear blue eyes.
Cool seasons should wear silver and white gold jewelry.
Spring and autumn have warm undertones.
Spring looks best in warm corals, salmons, pinks and butter yellow. Springs are warm golden blonds or golden brunettes.
Autumn is muted olives, burnt oranges, mustard yellows. Autumns cannot wear blue. Autumns often are redheads, from strawberry blond to deep auburn.
Warm seasons should wear gold-tone and bronze jewelry.
What to wear
Wear the colours that bring you to life – sounds obvious but too often delicate springs wear black and dramatic winters wear peach or yellow. You’ll know which suit you best by holding up different shades next to your face. The colours that suit you make you look younger, more vibrant and brighter. Colours that don’t work for you will make you look older, drawn, or even sick.
The above is a basic guideline, and not everyone will “see” themselves here. There’s a lot more to know if you’re interested! If you’re still not sure, ask me or another image consultant for a consultation. Leave me a comment and a way to reach you.
As fall approaches, soon the leaves will starting turning and the nights will get cooler. Time to think about your fall wardrobe.
As with every season, there are trends that emerge to capture our interests. Plaid is a perennial fall favourite and this year, it’s everywhere.
As a mature woman, how do you interpret the plaid trend without looking like a school girl or lumberjack? You may wish to avoid plaid miniskirts and flannel shirts in favour of some more subtle accents that can easily be incorporated into existing wardrobes. The key is to add just one piece to an outfit – avoid going head-to-toe in plaid. Here are some suggestions:
Everyone loves this classic! Whether you choose a silk or cashmere scarf, the classic Burberry adds elegance to any outfit.
Stella McCartney handbag
Stella McCartney has joined those who think a plaid handbag is a fun and easy way to incorporate the trend into a wardrobe.
Lucy Choi London shoes
And, finally, who can resist a pair of flirty plaid heels? These cute shoes are Lucy Choi London’s offering for the fall season.