Dress up!


With all the talk about Prince Harry’s and Meghan Markle’s upcoming wedding, we’re seeing images from other royal weddings and lots of photos of events that Kate, and now Meghan, are attending.

What I love about British society is that people know how to dress for the occasion. You’ll never see someone in jeans at the London Symphony. When the invitation says “black tie” everyone understands – and respects – the dress code.

Yes, it matters.

In the North American “me first” mentality, people feel the right to dress as they please, irrespective of any attire instructions. It’s pitiful.

When you dress down – less than the required attire – you are insulting the hosts and all the other guests. You are saying that your preferences are more important than the event itself. It’s very self-centered and selfish.

So the next time you are invited out, kindly mind the attire restrictions. When in doubt, it’s better to dress up than down. Show due respect for the hosts and the occasion.


What to wear to:

  • The ballet, symphony or opera – cocktail attire is most appropriate. This means embellished dresses (short or long), metallic or sparkly shoes, evening bag.
  • Live theatre – business or business casual works well. This means blazers with trousers, skirt or a dress; blouse, cardigan and trousers or skirt; summery dress. Heels are always in style.
  • Sporting event – here’s where you can dress casually. This means team jersey and jeans.
  • Religious services – at church, temple or other house of faith, it’s important to dress up – after all, there’s a reason your nice clothes are called “Sunday best.” It’s really not appropriate to wear a sloppy t-shirt and yoga pants to church. Please.

It’s about respecting the occasion – and most importantly – yourself.


Keyboards: the new cloaking devices?


One-third of women fear loneliness more than a cancer diagnosis, says a recent Forbes article. This doesn’t surprise me.

Allow me to divert from my usual blog about style… because I think this is an important topic, not only for women, but also for society as a whole.

Is our dependence on electronic communication creating a relationship void? When you only communicate remotely (i.e. not in person) you lose some level of intimacy with your friends. Typing is not emotional, it’s not expressive, it doesn’t allow for vulnerability. Certainly not in the way you can be face-to-face with a close friend.

Who even has close friends anymore? Does our keyboard shield us from the ability to truly know someone?

I’d argue, yes.

What’s missing here is the ability to really connect with people on an everyday basis. We hardly even want to speak on the phone anymore; preferring text or email so that you don’t have to engage in any small talk. God forbid you ask someone about their day and get the truth. woman-looking-in-mirror

I feel that these close connections will have long-term ramifications for society as a whole. For example, many mental health issues can be helped through the support of truly close friends. As humans, we need social interaction just as we need food and shelter to survive. We’re social animals.

How long before we never leave our houses, having food and groceries delivered through online orders, and working from home.

Oh, wait.

Make a point this year to reconnect with people, in person. Get to know someone beyond a superficial level. Be vulnerable.

Be human.